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Sprite

July 04, 2009

Celebrating the family firecracker

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Last year, I snapped this photo of Sprite and John as we took in the city's July 4th celebration, completely unaware that another kind of fireworks was happening elsewhere in the state.

That night, we came home, waterlogged from the downpour, and found a message on our phone. Our sister-in-law, still about a month away from her due date, had gone into labor and delivered our niece Alyssa, thus cementing our July 4th plans for the foreseeable future.

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(I know, cute, right? You want one, don't you?)

I can't believe a year has passed so quickly and now Alyssa can finally claim a finger for "How old are you?" questions.

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From a firecracker of a baby to a very laid back almost toddler, she has claimed her spot in the family with ease. I don't think I have one picture of a cross face for her.

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..Well, okay. Maybe one. I'm sure she can hold her own against Sprite in the attention getting arena.
 

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She's already trying..

Happy birthday, Alyssa.You may have to share your birthday with America, but we'll always say those fireworks are for you. (...Until you're old enough to know better. But let's leave those myths like fireworks and Santa alone so you can discover the truth like every other kid out there. In school.) 

To everyone else out there, have a happy and SAFE Fourth of July! 

July 02, 2009

Little Bunny Spew Spew

(As soon as I thought of the title, I started cracking up.)

"Time to get out, kid."

"No!"

"Come on. We have to get ready and go in the blue car to meet Daddy at the restaurant."

"No! No blue car!"

"What if I sing 'Little Bunny Foo Foo'? Then will you get out?"

Sprite considers this from her place among the drowned Dwarfs as she continues slapping her hands at the bubbles. "Okay."

She raises her arms and allows me to pluck her from the tub and wrap her in a towel.

I carry her over to my bed where her clothes are laid out and start the drying process, sneaking a few passes at her head with the towel since she hates to have her hair dried. (I have no idea why. The kid just screams when I venture toward the tresses. I don't recall any towel trauma in her pre-preschool days..)

"Bunny Foo Foo!" she demands.

"Dressed first," I reply. She submits to my control, letting me shove her legs into shorts, something she abhors as of late. (Any other girly-girl parents out there? Seriously? A dress EVERY DAY?) Finally, she is ready and we have a few minutes before we have to go, so I can pay my end of the bargain.

"Bunny Foo Foo!"

"Okay," I say, "Bunny Foo Foo." Grabbing her hands, I let her find her balance as she stands up on my side of the bed. "Ready?"

She giggles in anticipation.

As I begin to sing, she jumps in place.

"Little Bunny Foo Foo, hopping through the forest, scooping up the field mice and bopping them on the head."

She laughs out. "Goon! Goon!" Her feet continue to strike the mattress in quick succession.

"No, not yet. And the fairy said, Little Bunny Foo Foo, I don't want to see you scooping up the field mice and bopping them on the head."

"You a goon!" She bounces higher.

"You have three chances- Sprite, how many is three?"

She pauses and holds up her left hand, trying to place her three middle fingers before calling in the assistance of her right hand to finalize the effort. "Three!"

"Good job! And if you mess up, I'm turning you into a GOON!"

"Goon!" she croons.

"Little Bunny Foo Foo hopping through the forest- Sprite?"

She's stopped jumping and stands there, still holding my hands, but swaying as bit as her face contorts.

"You okay?"

She swallows a few times and a greenish pallor comes over her complexion. Oh, crap. The kid is going to blow.

"Do you need to throw up?" I see her nod a bit and take action.

I don't even think about it as I lift her up slightly and move her over to John's side of the bed. There she stands, with me holding her still, her eyes adjusting to the obvious vertigo she's experiencing. She gulps one more time and then looks up at me, the pink returning to her cheeks.

"Goon! Again!" she crows, ready to jump.

Crisis averted, I ease her a little more gently through the rest of the song and we leave to meet John and our friends for dinner.

(Best part about it all? I completely owned up to John at dinner about the possible sacrifice his part of the bed would have made. And laughed. Hard.)

(Yes, you should feel bad for him.. But not too bad. We were meeting him after he and those friends were done watching the Transformers movie, a movie I had wanted to see...)

(Hee hee, the title STILL has me laughing! In fact, it's my favorite title ever! I shall keep it and feed it and name it George.)

(Yes, I'm easily amused.)

July 01, 2009

The Morning Routine Rhumba

"Good morning, Sprite."

The switch flicks to flood the room with color and shows a small body huddled underneath her green blanket, head tucked under as she tries to hide from the light.

"Sprite sleeping. Good night, Mommy." She tries to make herself smaller, but seems to have reached her limit.

"No, sweets. It's morning. Time to get up." I pull back her blanket which sparks a grumble from the mass.

"No, blanket on me." Her hands reach back behind her for the telltale feel of cotton while her head stays locked in an embrace with her chest.

"I have a pink outfit all ready for you." Singing the suggestion doesn't help as she turns to glare at me from under her mop of hair.

"I sleeping, Mommy. Go way."

I sit down on her floor, proof that I am not heeding her advice. "Sprite, it's time to get up. Your daddy is making your pancake."

At the mention of her beloved pancake, her feet swing over and she twirls out of bed to stand before me, ready for a diaper refresher. As soon as I finish the first transaction and take her nightgown off, she dances away, out of arm's reach.

"Sprite, come back here and get dressed."

She smiles, unconvinced that nudity is not on today's schedule.

"Sprite, come here." I point to the floor in front of me. "Here!" I repeat, locking eyes with her.

"Can I help you?"

I balk. "Excuse me?"

"Can I help you?" she asks again. Her grin is even wider, her eyes sparkle more. She knows that until I move from where I sit, she is in control. (She also knows I tend not to move from my spot this early in the morning. She's good.)

Recovering, I point to the floor again. "Yeah, you can help me. By coming over here!"

She smiles and twirls, still out of reach.

"Or no pancake," I add, tossing in an ultimatum for effect.

She dances over, letting me win this battle.

As soon as I have her clothed, she asks, "Pancake?", smiling at me.

"First we brush our teeth."

She twirls away again.

And the dance continues..

We would get this done a lot quicker if the kid would let me lead. (For once.)

June 27, 2009

All I wanted was a nice picture..

Since when did "Cheese! become the code word for "Jump!"?

I just wanted to take a simple picture of Sprite and her best friend since they were both dressed so nicely. Yet, as soon as I took the camera out of my purse, a strange phenomenon began.

Every time I prompted them to say "Cheese", one would jump.

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First Sprite.

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Then her friend.

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Hm, Sprite again. (Hey, she can take turns! It IS possible!)

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(Action shot.) (Fifteen others were deleted since you couldn't tell where one began and the other ended.)

So, I decided to psyche them out and recorded the "photo session" to capture what it's really like to get ONE STINKING PHOTO.

Don't let them look at the camera.

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Dang! She caught me!

June 24, 2009

Surge

"Banana!" Sprite cried, going for her standard homecoming snack. I quickly peeled one, gave her half, and set the other half down on the counter so I could answer to the two whining dogs who were yelping from their crates to get relief from captivity and to relieve themselves in the grass outside.

Distant sounds of thunder rolled into hearing range and I looked toward the East. Gray, but not ugly. Satisfied that we would most likely not have to deal with a big lightning storm, I secured the leashes and left the dogs to roam for a bit in the backyard while I got Sprite and her quickly disappearing banana settled and started dinner.

"Do you want to watch Sesame Street-" CRACK!

The thunder sounded louder and more insistent. Sprite's eyes widened. "Do you hear it?"

"Yes, I hear it. It's thunder," I replied, heading back out to retrieve Harry and Blue, who had also heard it and didn't want to be anywhere near it. (Both dogs are afraid of thunder and frequently pant and vie for lap space when the thunder is fierce. During violent storms, they're a lot of fun.)

"Flounder?"

"No, honey, THUNDER."

"I wanna see Flounder."

"What?"

"Ariel," she pressed, "I see Ariel. Yes?"

"I watch Ariel again on the DDD." (I refuse to correct her on this. It's much more fun watching others try.)

"Um, sure." I grabbed the remote controls (because apparently, we need three to be able to toggle back and forth between cable and DVD and radio and cosmic messages from beyond, SERIOUSLY? This is why people shouldn't be surprised we lose remotes so quickly! If one were to be removed, it would probably take a week for us to notice it missing.) and started to prep the DVD (already in the player as this week's movie du jour) when the lights flickered. "Oh, no."

"Mommy? Turn on Ariel?"

"Hold on, Sprite. The power went out." The power surged back on, but something was amiss. I looked up at the pocket lights in the kitchen and they glowed dimly. If the electricity was back on, it was definitely phoning it in.

"Mommy, turn on Ariel." Sprite's voice became agitated with impatience.

I sighed, pressing on the remote to try getting her beloved sushi loving redhead (Now, here's a thought. Has anyone ever wondered if Sebastian or Flounder ever feared for their lives when Ariel got hungry? Just me? Never mind.) while worrying that the half-caffeinated power would not be enough to make dinner.

The lights flickered again, like the street's transformer was trying to make it up the hill of electricity, then went out completely as the transformer gave up.

Sprite and I stared at each other in the darkened house, the late afternoon light not strong enough to illuminate anything more than Sprite's consternation. "No! Don't turn off the light!" She ran over to the wall and flipped the kitchen switch. Nothing. "Mommy! Turn on the light."

"I can't, honey. The power is out."

"PLEASE?" This tacked on question usually got my approval for whatever request she lobbed my way, but I was powerless to help her. And the house was powerless too as she vainly flicked the switch up and down to bring back the voltage.

"Sprite, the power is out. We don't have any lights."

She marched back over to me. "Turn on Ariel."

"I can't." I emphasized the "can't" as if this would clue her in to the limits in my feeble powers.

Her temper surged. "I do it," she announced, and turned to the remotes where she started pressing buttons. "Ariel, come on," she commanded, looking back to the silent TV with every move.

I watched, not even close to controlling the fit of giggles that came up. Sprite, in her anger, glared at me and cried, "No! Get Ariel! I want Ariel!"

I didn't know what to do. I knew the problem. I understood she was upset. I just couldn't make her understand why I couldn't fix it.

Bending down, I picked up the dissolving child and tried once more. "Sprite, we had a power surge. We have no power. No power, no Ariel. I'm sorry. I can't make it better right now."

Her eyes filled with tears as if I was punishing her. "My Ariel?"

"Sorry, kid."

Her cries became louder and her eyes squeezed shut as the tantrum took over. And I hugged her tight and wished I could plug some of her frustrated energy directly into the wall so she could have every damn Princess she wanted at her viewing disposal.

"Do you want chicken nuggets?"

The tears streamed down her cheeks. "Ye-eh-eh-es..."

"Good, because I hear Daddy outside. We're going out to eat."

"Watch Ariel in blue car?"

"Yes, love. You can watch Ariel in the blue car."

As John's key slid into the door lock, her stormy face brightened and she wiped away the watery evidence. She bounced down from my arms and ran to see John, who was a little surprised to find us in the dark. "Daddy! I get chicken nuggets! I watch Ariel in the blue car!"

John looked up from her excitement. "Power out?"

"Yup."

He knew no power usually means a hellish night with toddler. I married a smart man.

"Let's go then."

June 21, 2009

Homecoming

He was home. His business trip was finally over.

I hung up with him as I turned into the airport's entrance.

"Okay, Sprite. Daddy's here. Wanna go get Daddy?"

I peeked at the rear view mirror and saw her staring dimly at the DVD player. It was late, too far past her bedtime, way too far past her logic's threshold. We were both running on fumes by now and  I had the feeling that I could have dangled the Princesses in front of her face and her reaction would have stayed the same.

Once we parked, the tired child immediately demanded a ride in my arms as we steered toward Baggage Claim.

I looked around, slowing my steps down, trying to peer through the throng of people  congregated around the only working carousel. "I wonder where Daddy is." Sprite's head stayed glued to my shoulder, not interested in my one-sided conversation.

Then she heard it. A whistle coming from about 100 feet ahead of us. She straightened and looked into my eyes. "Daddy?" Her voice sounded hopeful after a week of only seeing him through the computer camera.

The whistle sounded again. This time, I spotted him in the crowd.  Stopping, I put her down and pointed him out to her.

"Daddy!"

She had spotted him. Forgetting about the distance and the people she would have to navigate to get to him, she bolted.

He leaned down, his arms opening wide while I fumbled for my camera to try to capture the moment they made contact with each other. I didn't quite get what I wanted.

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I watched them embrace and heard her scream with excitement and him exclaim over her dress and her hair, compliments he knew she wanted to hear, the musical voice he knew she loved. He pulled a Belle doll out of his carry-on bag to present to her, but the doll played second fiddle to him. She was much more interested in him.

I walked over to the two of them lost in their greeting, one spilling over with words she didn't quite understand to fill him in on everything he had missed in her week, and the other studying her closely for any signs of change that may have possibly happened while he was away.

Reaching them, I stole a kiss for myself, happy that my partner was back, my co-pilot in parenthood. We secured his luggage and walked out of the airport quickly, as if that would expedite out return to normal, at least the normal we knew.

A few moments later, I realized they had stopped. I turned around and caught them still chatting and soaking up each other's essence. This time, my camera captured exactly what I wanted to see.

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Only he can make her smile like that. And only she can make him smile like that.

Happy Father's Day, John. Sprite and I love you very much.

And a happy Father's Day to everyone else out there too, especially if you can make your kids smile just by coming home.

June 18, 2009

Despite her enthusiasm, she's definitely not a fish.

I got a few comments here and there since Friday asking for an update on Sprite's swimming lessons. I thought I would add a quick snatch of how the lesson went in yesterday's RTT, but tangents got in the way and it became it's own long winded post, instead of a long winded paragraph. So, sorry. And you're welcome for sparing you from its wind on Tuesday.. (I care.)

Saturday was busy enough as it was. We began with a birthday party which we literally ate and ran from just to get to the YMCA's pool in time. Poor kid was asking for her share of the birthday cake along the way as I had been teasing her all week about how she would be able to sing "Happy Birthday" to someone other than "Friend" (which is usually what she fills the name in with when she has the song in her head) and get in on some sugar action, and then we cut her good times short by throwing her some cheetos and pushing her out of the park's pavilion before she could sing for her sweets. (We know, we're mean.) But any sour mood she sported from our refusal to let her have any fun (I know! We're mean! Consider the motion approved.) lifted when we pulled into the parking lot and the pool came into viewing (and smelling) distance. I carried her over and as soon as she saw the bobbing blue, the chattering began.

"I see the water! See the water? Do you SEE it? I swimming? Mommy!" she slapped her hands on my cheeks and turned me to face her full on. "I swimming, Mommy? Yes?"

"Yes, you're going swimming, Sprite." I put her down in the shady area where parents and children were starting to stake out territory for their towels and such. Not even a second after her feet hit the floor, she bee-lined for the water.

"Oh, no. Not yet." John grabbed her and parked her on the bench table so I could attack her with the SPF, which she objected to. (Yeah, cry now, kid. Are you going to be thanking me later when you are skin cancer and burn free? Of course not!) (So ungrateful..) While John and I took turns getting into our water attire, we both dealt with her repeated efforts to gain access to the agua.

Eventually, the roster was called and the teacher, Ms. Carol, had everyone in the parent/child group (age 6-36 months) join her in the pool. As we walked toward the steps, I noticed most of the other parents still huddled under the shade acting like we were getting ready for the final oral reports in high school Speech class and no one wanted to be called first. Screw that, I thought. I need to get there before Sprite tries to dive in herself. The fifteen or so toddlers waded in with their parents and the tears started. Some whimpered. Some cried. Only Sprite cried with joy, her screams echoing off the water as she looked all around her, excited for the experience of being submerged.

The lesson itself was very informal, just parents getting the kids used to the water, maybe introducing them to kicking, working on climbing onto the wall to escape the water, blowing bubbles, CPR lessons for the toddlers, an Algebra pop quiz, you know, the usual beginner's stuff.

John and I swapped out regularly as we led Sprite around the shallow end, noticing that she wasn't really interested in kicking, raised an eyebrow at our clownish looks when we tried to teach her the blowing bubbles, and seemed to think she had a handle on this whole swimming thing herself as she kept trying to escape my clutches in the middle of the pool.

"I swimming," she would cry, then push away from me. Her head would then disappear for a count before I could reach in and bring her to the surface, where, you know, the AIR was. She would sputter for a few seconds, wipe the water from her eyes, smile big, and try again. (Well, at least she's not a quitter.)

The teacher made her rounds and is probably regretting making a left toward us instead of a right for another couple and their 9 month old son, who doesn't quite talk yet.

"Look, Sprite, it's Ms. Carol," I began, thinking it would be a good idea to directly introduce Sprite to her teacher who may or may not be ultimately responsible for traumatic chlorine swallows in her near future. (And I was totally prepared to point fingers when the blame game began.) I barely closed my mouth when Sprite launched herself right out of my arms and into her teacher's.

"Hi, Carol! I swimming! This is my mommy! My daddy," she shouted, pointing toward John, "and I have Tinker Bell!" Her hands slapped her chest in an effort to get the Tinker Bell picture emblazoned on her swimsuit into the conversation. "Carol, are you blue?"

Ms. Carol (poor Ms. Carol) looked at us for a second with a blank smile on her face. "How old is she?"

"Two and a half," I replied, smiling in the hopes that she would find Sprite's verbal assault cute.

"And why is she asking if I'm blue?"

"It's the color you have on. She just forgets to add 'wearing'."

Ms. Carol nodded and beamed at Sprite. "We're gonna be good friends this summer, aren't we?"

Ms. Carol, you have no idea.

The overwhelmed teacher took her for a few moves and complimented Sprite's willingness to climb out of the water and jump back in. She offered us some pointers on helping Sprite learn to kick, cuz, you know, that's important to swimming survival and stuff, and blow bubbles. "Just let her blow bubbles in the bathtub. (Um, Carol, do you know that we've been trying to stop her from swallowing bath water for a while now? And now we are to encourage it? Forget Sprite being confused. My hand is raised.)

Ms. Carol tried to pass Sprite back to me, ending our turn with her, but Sprite would have none of it, and all of Ms. Carol. She clung to the woman and cried, "No! I want Carol!"

"Honey," I coaxed, "MS. Carol needs to help other kids. She'll come back later." I finally disentangled Sprite from the instructor who swam away. "Let's work on climbing out, okay?" I waded over to the wall and released Sprite who grabbed for the ledge.

She no sooner lifted her tushy to rest on the step when she started shouting, "Carol! Hey, Carol! Come here, Carol!"

John intervened. "Sprite, she's busy. Here! Come jump into Daddy's arms!"

Sprite didn't acknowledge him as she continued calling out for her new friend. "Carol! Carol! GET BACK HERE, CAROL!"

"Sprite, use your indoor voice." (Yes, I know we were outside. Trust me, I felt stupid saying it, but was pulling at strings to get her voice lowered. And the acoustics on the water's surface? Gives the term "voices carry" a whole new meaning.)

The rest of the lesson sped by with us alternately playing spotter to Sprite in the water and keeping Carol out of harm's (Sprite's) way.

Finally, we noticed the shady area becoming very crowded and realized we were alone in the pool. Sprite tried to stretch out on the ledge despite our requests to leave.

"Go way, Sprite sleeping. Come back later." She turned her head away from me as she tried to lay down on her tummy in the inch of water on the step.

The teacher made her way over. "Hey there, Sprite! It's time to go! Don't you want to go?"

Sprite looked up at Ms. Carol and smiled. "I sleeping."

"Well, that's not very comfortable on that concrete. Why don't you let Mom and Dad get you dry and warm? We'll see you back here next week, okay?"

Sprite slowly released her grip on the aquatic dream and let us reel her in.

As we walked back over to the tables for our things, Carol came over and softly said, "She's going to be one of my more memorable students this summer, huh?"

Sprite lifted her head off my shoulder and grinned that toddler watt smile.

Ms. Carol, you have no idea...

June 17, 2009

And the battle wages on..

"Hey."

"Hi?"

"I just left the gym and I'm on the way to Publix."

"You need to hurry."

"What's wrong?"

"She's refusing to wear anything. No diaper, no underwear, she's bare assed."

"Huh? Why?"

"She heard you were getting Pull Ups and she's holding out."

"You mean she-"

"Yup, she's a walking ticking tinkle-bomb."

"Like a pee-pee protest."

"Glad you find this funny. You're not the one home with her."

"And she hasn't pooped today either."

"Oh, great, something else to watch for."

"Yup, for the next half hour, instead of deciding between Blue and Harry for a culprit, you need to include Sprite too."

"Just get the damn Pull Ups and get home. I don't know how long I can keep- Sprite, get off the couch!"

"I'm going as fast as I can."

I may just take the long way home. Maybe John needs to sweat a little..

June 11, 2009

Love Found, Love Lost, Love Found

He stood tall on the steps, his short black hair unmoved by the breeze.

She stepped closer, silenced by his height, enamored with the power that seemed to emanate from his form.

"What are you looking at?" he asked, his voice husky with maturity.

She could only stare.

He smiled at her and turned away to climb the rest of the way to the bridge where he then turned back toward her and beckoned with his hand. "Are you coming?"

"Please," she replied, her voice finally free, and walked  over.

He grabbed her hand and drew her onto the bridge, their steps halting as the planks moved beneath them, the only firm thing was her decision to trust him.

"Jump," he commanded and grabbed a hold of the rails as he jettisoned up, creating a quake throughout the questionable boards.

She complied, taking her place next to him, the love in her eyes as she followed his orders.

Together, they tested the strength of those boards and the strength of their love. A laugh escaped her lips as she matched his bounds. He laughed back, lifting her spirits even higher.

A wisp of blond hair distracted him and he turned to see a different damsel walk by. "Hey! Come here!"

His interest no longer confined to the bridge, he walked away from her, from her love.

"Wait! Come back!" she cried. She held onto the rails as she watched the blond and her black haired hero walk away.

She stood there for a few moments, lost in her own sorrow.

"Hey, you!"

She turned her face toward the sound and found herself looking at deep brown eyes.

"I'm Jacob. I'm three. How old are you?"

She lifted her fingers in a symbolic gesture.

"Come on the slide with me!" He held his hand out for her to take.

All she could do was stare before she stepped forward. "Please."

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(John and I are in serious trouble.)

June 10, 2009

It's mental, all right.

I think I witnessed the earliest incarnation of the pack mentality.

It all happened this morning, an innocent morning so it seemed, when I was dropping Sprite off for school...

Sprite and I sat down at one of the tables in the empty classroom and I attempted to tame down the wild hares  put her hair into a manageable ponytail  put her hair into a semi-manageable ponytail  got out her brush so her teacher could do her hair. As we were bickering about the hair  staring each other down over her obvious opinions on the brush  singing sweetly to each other, the door opened and some classmates piled in along with the teacher.

Sprite decided it was time to show her classmates her "twirl", which consists of me floating my hand above her head and pointing a finger down. She then takes hold of the finger and goes into ballerina mode. Her classmates decided this was a great game and a few of the girls wanted in on this action, although for a moment there when one of them grabbed the same hand that Sprite was using, some unimportant yet painful finger bone may have snapped.

Finally, Kayla, who is potty trained, advised that she had to go. (Because every newly trained child has to announce it when just months ago, they were trying to ignore it.) She then turned to Sprite and asked, "Sprite, go with Kayla to potty?"

Sprite responded, "Oh, how wonderful!" and giggled. (I swear, she says it. Sometimes, she substitutes "beautiful" and she voices it in a whispery falsetto. When I find out who taught her this, I may hurt them, but if she keeps it up for the moments when she receives presents on her birthday, everyone will be admiring me for having such a polite child and I will reap the benefits. Then I will apologize for hurting the person. Maybe.)

Then their friend Mikayla joined in and said, "I go potty too!" The three of them shrieked and giggled as they started walking over to the class powder room.  Another two girls joined them inside and it became a gaggle of giggles deciding who was going to sit where. (There's one "big kid potty" and three training potties.)

The teacher, another parent, and I all watched as they finally settled down and scored one for the Pull Ups team. The other parent said, "Huh."

I looked over at her.

"Now I get it."

"Get what?" the teacher asked.

"The pack mentality begins as far back as toddler age."

I cracked up as the teacher looked a little confused, and while the parent explained the group effort to rush the bathroom, a little girl in the "in crowd" shouted out, "I did it!"

A chorus of cheers erupted from the rest and Sprite cried out, "Girlfriend!" (I know exactly who taught her that one. Susan, you're officially on warning..)